We started reading The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by Dr. John Gottman.  I am really excited to start this book – I’ve heard great things about it and so far it is great.  I really like that a major theme of his book is that married couples should be great friends.  I like how he pointed out that finding hobbies to do together can be good if you both enjoy them.  I have been telling my husband lately that we need to find some things that we like to do together, just the two of us, and that thought had definitely crossed my mind.  Honestly, it’s more about date night.  We are really bad about making time for a regular date night each week.  So I think it'll be fun to go out and try new things together and to make date night a bigger priority.  And it will be a good opportunity to strengthen our friendship.  I also really loved that he said, "Friendship fuels the flames of romance because it offers the best protection against feeling adversarial toward your spouse."  There was really so much in the first 3 chapters that I won’t go into it all here, but I will say that I was alarmed to see some of the warning signs in my marriage.  At the same time I’m thankful to have the opportunity to read this book so that we can learn how to change what we’re doing wrong, how to improve, and how to increase what we’re doing right.